Stephen Cairns’ life was a true love story and a life well lived, his family have said.

Stephen (69) passed away on August 25 and the regard he was held in was seen at Ballycassidy House Funeral Home, where a large number of friends and neighbours came to pay their final respects.

Having grown up in Belfast, and educated at Methodist College Belfast, it was at the University of Ulster where he met his wife, Ann (nee McQuaid ).

Despite falling in love, Ann and Stephen encountered some challenges in their early years. A mixed marriage in the 1970s was not to be taken lightly.

Stephen had a passion for integrated education and was instrumental in securing finance for the very successful Enniskillen Integrated Primary School.

Stephen and Ann were part of the 10 accounts of mixed marriages told in ‘Mixed Emotions’ related by (NIMMA), the Northern Ireland Mixed Marriage Association.

“Stephen defined mixed marriage as an appreciation of each other’s cultures,” explained Ann.

“We are culturally different in some ways, but similar in others, and it’s about achieving balance through listening, talking and compromise.”

Stephen strongly believed in the importance of education, in helping to develop an understanding of difference. He hoped that his marriage to Ann would leave a legacy that would shine brighter than any Olympic flame.

Excelled at sport

Stephen excelled at many sports. He was very proud of breaking three hours for the Belfast Marathon. He was also an accomplished swimmer, diver and a skilful footballer and could handle himself on the rugby field.

In later life, his main passion was bridge – one he was lucky to share with Ann. They represented Ulster at master level on many occasions.

The Irish Bridge Association posted on their website: “As well as being a brilliant bridge player, Stephen had that rare quality of being able to make his opponents feel very welcome and relaxed at the table. We will miss his friendly, affable charm and good humour.”

Stephen was diagnosed with throat cancer at 52. His family are very grateful for the time he had since then.

“He lived a full life between his initial diagnosis and his passing,” Ann said.

“He suffered two further cancers, but still remained upbeat. If he suffered, it was in silence and he never complained.

“Everyone who met him described him as a gentleman and despite his gentle, warm caring and funny side, he was so resilient and tough.”

Fondly remembered

Stephen will be remembered as a loyal husband, a wonderful father and an inspirational grandfather, good friend and great companion.

He died playing bridge, the game he loved, with the woman he loved. He will be missed dearly, but his life will be celebrated by his family and friends who will hold him with love in their hearts.

His son, Keith, said: “We are so proud of Dad and his positive influence on so many throughout his life.

“The huge turnout at the funeral home from so many walks of life gives us great comfort.

“His grandchildren adored him and are grateful for all the special times they shared, and the positive impact he had on them.”

Stephen is survived by his wife, Ann; sons Adam (Britte) and Keith (Alison); and his grandchildren, Matthew, Niamh, Anna, Lucie, Charlie, Sophie, and Jack.

Funeral arrangements were by W. T. Morrison Funeral Directors.